AW, I continue to appreciate the manner in which you juxtapose the gendered perspectives to make the competing strategies glaringly obvious. The benefit of your approach is that it should improve knowledge transfer, which is the point of writing, especially on this topic (or any "red pill" topic). Even for old guys, like me, it helps to remind me of what I already know, but maybe further internalize that knowledge.
When I was younger, negotiation, which is a soft form of confrontation or conflict, used to make me anxious. There are likely many reasons for that emotional response, one being outcome dependence. But, as I've aged, I'm much less triggered by the thought of negotiation, of conflict. Why? Mostly because you can't avoid conflict. It is kinda like going to the gym. The more experience you gain in negotiating, the more comfortable you become and, eventually, you realize it is just a natural part of life.
So, what's my point? Do this negotiating long enough and you'll eventually figure out what works for you, Mostly, for me, I realize that being direct in expressing my desired outcome, at the right moment, is the best approach. Here's what I want... You game? It really is that simple, but... getting to that point isn't necessarily easy.
One thing that struck me when I read Rian Stone's Dread is how important status is. Pandering signals lower status. Leading with your wallet signals lower status.
But if you date real actual feminists, not the types who are only feminists when it suits them, but principled feminists with a degree in sociology, they will insist to split the bill. I like real feminists. Easy on my wallet and usually hugely kink-submissive.
I dunno. I go out to dinner with my kids and watch movies with them all the time. And my wife sometimes, too. The activity is pretty much the same. I only have sex afterward with my wife, though. Almost like who she is and who I am are the big deal, not the "date".
Sometimes women go home with a guy after a vodka soda not because they liked him so much though (or more than oneself). Sometimes he was just at the right place and right time when she was looking to get over her ex who she just found out was cheating on her. The guy she went home just happened to be attached to a penis (which is what she was after).
Women make rules for men they don't desire and break rules for men they desire
AW, I continue to appreciate the manner in which you juxtapose the gendered perspectives to make the competing strategies glaringly obvious. The benefit of your approach is that it should improve knowledge transfer, which is the point of writing, especially on this topic (or any "red pill" topic). Even for old guys, like me, it helps to remind me of what I already know, but maybe further internalize that knowledge.
When I was younger, negotiation, which is a soft form of confrontation or conflict, used to make me anxious. There are likely many reasons for that emotional response, one being outcome dependence. But, as I've aged, I'm much less triggered by the thought of negotiation, of conflict. Why? Mostly because you can't avoid conflict. It is kinda like going to the gym. The more experience you gain in negotiating, the more comfortable you become and, eventually, you realize it is just a natural part of life.
So, what's my point? Do this negotiating long enough and you'll eventually figure out what works for you, Mostly, for me, I realize that being direct in expressing my desired outcome, at the right moment, is the best approach. Here's what I want... You game? It really is that simple, but... getting to that point isn't necessarily easy.
One thing that struck me when I read Rian Stone's Dread is how important status is. Pandering signals lower status. Leading with your wallet signals lower status.
But if you date real actual feminists, not the types who are only feminists when it suits them, but principled feminists with a degree in sociology, they will insist to split the bill. I like real feminists. Easy on my wallet and usually hugely kink-submissive.
nah dates are for romance
I dunno. I go out to dinner with my kids and watch movies with them all the time. And my wife sometimes, too. The activity is pretty much the same. I only have sex afterward with my wife, though. Almost like who she is and who I am are the big deal, not the "date".
Sometimes women go home with a guy after a vodka soda not because they liked him so much though (or more than oneself). Sometimes he was just at the right place and right time when she was looking to get over her ex who she just found out was cheating on her. The guy she went home just happened to be attached to a penis (which is what she was after).