The OF chats are even sadder than you might think. The men aren't chatting w the girls. They are chatting w some dude in a chat farm. Having dozens, or hundreds, of chats going at once gives the girls access to the real money which comes as tips and gifts. The subscriptions are just the hook.
In my understanding the reason most people try to have sex and hook up irl isn't connection but status. That's not to say that there isn't any connection, but status is the primary concern. It's actually not even the sex itself but being picked to have sex with someone of decent status that's the goal. Masturbation doesn't count because you don't get status from it. Prostitution can count if you and you and your cohort thinks it counts (whether through spending lots of money or getting a really hot girl). Similar dynamics apply with onlyfans, you're competing with the other people who want the girls attention. Women don't like their husbands if they think he's a loser, etc.
This explains why OF beats porn for so many men…it’s not about seeing bobs and vagine, it’s about perceived access. Even a carefully scripted DM hits harder than RL rejection or starfish “duty sex” at home. Men aren’t starving for an orgasm…they’re starving for genuine invitation…
"Not so. Because a 41 year old man enjoying casual sex with a 21 year old woman pisses on the illusion. There is very little illusion of connection there. Casual sex with a hot, age-appropriate 21-year-old frat boy — even if this is understood casual sex — looks like what relationship sex looks like, even if it never becomes a relationship. And these two kids in a similar place in life with more things in common will have a slightly stronger social connection. And there’s always the remote possibility of a deeper connection developing."
OK this is insightful. This is the first explanation for it that makes sense.
Also you are not Red Pill, and that is a good thing. You are far better than the Red Pillers.
The OF chats are even sadder than you might think. The men aren't chatting w the girls. They are chatting w some dude in a chat farm. Having dozens, or hundreds, of chats going at once gives the girls access to the real money which comes as tips and gifts. The subscriptions are just the hook.
In my understanding the reason most people try to have sex and hook up irl isn't connection but status. That's not to say that there isn't any connection, but status is the primary concern. It's actually not even the sex itself but being picked to have sex with someone of decent status that's the goal. Masturbation doesn't count because you don't get status from it. Prostitution can count if you and you and your cohort thinks it counts (whether through spending lots of money or getting a really hot girl). Similar dynamics apply with onlyfans, you're competing with the other people who want the girls attention. Women don't like their husbands if they think he's a loser, etc.
Fun/insightful read as always - although there's a couple of places where you've used 'causal' instead of 'casual'.
Typing "form" when I mean "from" is another big one I do often
This explains why OF beats porn for so many men…it’s not about seeing bobs and vagine, it’s about perceived access. Even a carefully scripted DM hits harder than RL rejection or starfish “duty sex” at home. Men aren’t starving for an orgasm…they’re starving for genuine invitation…
"Not so. Because a 41 year old man enjoying casual sex with a 21 year old woman pisses on the illusion. There is very little illusion of connection there. Casual sex with a hot, age-appropriate 21-year-old frat boy — even if this is understood casual sex — looks like what relationship sex looks like, even if it never becomes a relationship. And these two kids in a similar place in life with more things in common will have a slightly stronger social connection. And there’s always the remote possibility of a deeper connection developing."
OK this is insightful. This is the first explanation for it that makes sense.
Also you are not Red Pill, and that is a good thing. You are far better than the Red Pillers.
100% this. This is good philosophy. I can’t agree more